I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people. I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.
Thank you so much for this! I'm currently in the military and being an introvert in this field is not an easy task. I'm surrounded by extroverts daily at my job, and when I get off, It's time to relax and kickback with a good book, video game or movie. But I'm frowned upon by my co-workers when I don't show up at a party they invite me too, or I never answer their phone calls. Truthfully, I get a little depressed because I always seem like I'm the only one in the world who acts this way. But then I see things like this and it helps me create a better understanding of myself and why I act the way I do. Once again, thank you.
Maybe I should pass this along to a friend of mind who suddenly decided that, for some reason, I didn't want to be his friend. All because I declined going to social events every weekend, and because I was busy doing more important things than jibber-jabbering on the phone for hours at a time--like work and homework.
Thank you! I always have a little trouble explaining to people that I don't hate them or that I'm being anti-social, I just like being quiet and left alone.
I see your point about respecting peoples personal space, but I have to say that I think introversion is selfish. The idea that introverted people have 'precious energy' that they have to be very careful about spending i think demonstrates this. Extroverted people understand that sometimes you have to do things you dont want to do, but you do it anyway because it makes other people happy, and thats the way I think it should be. And I do take it as an insult when an introvert doesnt want to spend time with me because it's essentially saying that I'm not worth his/her 'precious energy'. If you do things for other people, they will do things for you, and maybe thats why extroverts tend to be much happier people and enjoy life more.
I know! How dare some people be different than you! The NERVE! And anyone who isn't exactly like you is miserable. That's the way it is. You are so much better and smarter and happier than us. We should all strive to be EXTROVERTS! Truly THIS is the best of all possible lives! Thank you for opening my closed, selfish, hateful little mind to your glorious truth.
Thank you for taking time out of your day to place judgement on us. We are obviously of the ruling class and are oppressive to all you poor extroverts. We force you into libraries when you would rather be out partying and then shame you for enjoying the life you like. We have lots of pop songs about reading and enjoying conversations while there are almost no songs at all about dancing and getting drunk. Yes, your lot suffers so much from our selfish refusal to entertain you.
Yes, my stable relationship, world travel, lots of friends all over the globe, and four publications mean nothing because I'm an introvert who believes that I am not responsible for other people's happiness. The vast majority of people I meet think I'm a nice, friendly person, but they must be wrong, right?
Jesus you are one childish person. You have a LOT of growing up and life experience ahead of you if you honestly believe that your way of thinking is the only right way, and that everyone else who does things differently is out to insult you personally and must be unhappy.
There's nothing wrong with being anti-social, despite how the term has been dragged through the mud.
And anyone who isn't exactly like you is miserable. That's the way it is. You are so much better and smarter and happier than us. We should all strive to be EXTROVERTS! Truly THIS is the best of all possible lives! Thank you for opening my closed, selfish, hateful little mind to your glorious truth.
Thank you for taking time out of your day to place judgement on us. We are obviously of the ruling class and are oppressive to all you poor extroverts. We force you into libraries when you would rather be out partying and then shame you for enjoying the life you like. We have lots of pop songs about reading and enjoying conversations while there are almost no songs at all about dancing and getting drunk. Yes, your lot suffers so much from our selfish refusal to entertain you.
Yes, my stable relationship, world travel, lots of friends all over the globe, and four publications mean nothing because I'm an introvert who believes that I am not responsible for other people's happiness. The vast majority of people I meet think I'm a nice, friendly person, but they must be wrong, right?
Jesus you are one childish person. You have a LOT of growing up and life experience ahead of you if you honestly believe that your way of thinking is the only right way, and that everyone else who does things differently is out to insult you personally and must be unhappy.